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Psychochromatic Redemption

A bit of everything, just to keep my erroneous mind busy.

Happy New Year

H appiness
O ptimism
P eace
E mpathy

Hope 2021 will bring you all of these

Best books of 2020

What a year!… WHAT A FREAKY STRA NGE YEAR! (couldn’t help myself) It has been a roller-coaster and am not sure what 2021 will bring so I have mixed feelings at the end of the year.

Haven’t written anything in a long time, out of laziness mostly, but also because I felt like I hadn’t much to say. The reality surpassed by far my imagination. So instead I read.

I read a lot, 53 books to be more exact, according to GoodReads (true that three of them were nursery books, but needed to read them for research). There were books I contemplated on this year and also books I totally forgot I read.

Looking through my Goodreads list (thanks God we have this app available) I could make a top 5ish of the best books I have read this year.

1. On the first place, holding the trophy (too bad it didn’t win the Goodreads award) is Anxious People by Fredrik Backman. What a beautiful and insightful book! I have discovered Backman’s style of writing in this book and I was hooked. Reading all his other books now.

2. On the second place was The Midnight Library by Matt Haig- winner of the Goodreads Choice Award 2020. O really enjoyed the story and decided to read it after the winners were announced to see if it was worth it. And it totally was. Interesting storyline and it makes you hope that Midnight Library is not fictional.

3. Best thriller I have read this year is The Pilgrim by Terry Hayes. What a captivating, interesting plot. Even though a long read, it was entertaining all the way through.

4. Best romantic chick-lit, there were two that stood out so I have to nominate them both. Both of them from one of my favourite authors of this genre, Lindsey Kelk. They were One in a Million and In Case You Missed It. What can I say, Lindsey Kelk never dissapoints when it comes to good laugh and nice romance.

5. Best self-help book (because we really needed those this year) was Atomic Habits by James Clear, a book I really recommend to everyone who wants to change their habits. Remember it takes only two minutes.

Special mention goes to American Dirt by Jeanine Cummins and This is what happens by Chris Wind, both of them very introspective and, in different ways, heart-breaking.

Do this was it, best books I have read this year. What were yours? Have you read any of these? What are your thoughts?

Damaged

Thoughts of an anxious mind

Living with anxiety is not easy. You try to be brave, not letting yourself be ruled by it, but this is not always successful.

Do not talk about it, pretend it’s not there is just another way of not acknowledging the elephant in the room. That’s not an option.

Thinking about it and analyzing it too much is exhausting and results in even more anxiety being created. You add more stress and worry to the already big enough pile.

So what is the solution? I haven’t found it yet, but I guess small steps of improvement help. Small walks, a bit of exercising, reading a good book, little things that make your world better.

And don’t forget to smile. It will make your day better.

My poem on Elephant Journal

Following the events in my previous workplace, I have wrote a poem/letter dedicated to my former employer.

Have sent the poem to Elephant Journal and they published it on their website.

Here is the link, hope you’ll enjoy it https://elejrnl.com/?p=2594850

Gender Fraud-a fiction raises some questions

She had to – What? Behave appropriately. Speak appropriately. Say nice shit or keep her mouth shut.

Gender Fraud

“Essentially, nearly all people are born with physical characteristics that are labelled male or female. ” states Office of National Statistics in the UK. WHO defines gender as based on socially constructed features.

Gender Identity Fraud and gender dysphoria are things I have learned about by reading this book. Done my research to get an understanding of the concepts. Gender Identity Fraud “cases involve a person being criminalised and sent to prison as a sex offender for deceiving a sexual partner over their gender.” People who suffer from gender dysphoria feel they are the wrong sex.

That being said, Peg Tittle did it again, with this new controversial novel. I found myself nodding every time Kat made a comment, every time she had to present the facts to everyone working in the correctional(!?) facility.

I know this book migh create a controversy for trans-women and I don’t want to go there, because this was not the message I got from reading it.

It’s about hundreds of years of women being subordinated. There is this standardised image of women, our society promotes. The consumerism society pushes women to buy all sorts of make-up to look better, to hide their age, to not feel confortable in their own skin. It’s a whole industry build on the concept of women perfection. You need to wear this in order to be attractive to the opposite sex. Everything is made in coordination with men’s needs. No doubt they are behind all this industry.

Being a photographer and studying poses in women portraiture, you easily come to the conclusion they were first created by men. Every pose either expresses fragility or sensuality. Rarely, some photographers decide to brake the rules. However, most women like posing in this way, so I guess the programming worked pretty well.

Also, as a woman, you should be quiet, not correct anyone, especially not a man. You should always smile and feel happy. If you fail to do these, you are sanctioned in a way or another.

We live in a world where women are still being punished for wearing a bra, for not wearing gloves and what in the world was wrong with France? Therefore, many issues are still not being addressed and it’s easy to divert your attention towards trivial matters.

Gender Fraud addresses all the issues stated above. I enjoyed the dialogue between Kat and Dell and her answers to the psychiatrist’s questions were ace.

“Lose the battle to win the war.” does not always work as Kat learned from attending various groups, all on irrelevant matters (cake decorating, sewing, nothing to require’s one intellect). Childless Group was one of the worst and I totally agree with Kat on that one.

Overall, I quite enjoyed Gender Fraud-a fiction. The ending was unexpected and also came with a twist.

The season of change

It’s autumn.

Summer has come and gone, with a lot of anxiety, pressure and heat waves.

There was no other summer like this one.

No awaited planned holidays, no fun at the beach,

No outdoor parties, concerts or gatherings.

It was strange but people get used to living with strange.

Soon it makes part of your life.

But that is over now. Tu e to admire the nature dying. There’s a meditation practice in all this. Seeing the leaves fall, the nature transforming…

Maybe it’s time we learn a lesson

Maybe it’s time to acknowledge the changes

Maybe it’s time to begin to understand what is actually happening

Maybe we should start embracing the change and use it in our advantage

Maybe…

As for the time being, love, live, learn and embrace the change

The Mirror Effect of an Empath & Why Some People Instantly Dislike You

Such a great and informative post! Worth reading!

Empaths Empowered


We have all experienced it, being around someone who has either taken an instant dislike to us, or a bizarre resentment suddenly appears in those we have known for some time.

There may be no clear reason for this change in their behaviour. No matter whether they try to hide their feelings or not, an Empath can sense their loathing and it does not feel good!

Someone taking a dislike to another is a completely normal and acceptable part of life. We are all different and there will always be some people we do not get along with, whether Sensitive or not. 

What is often baffling to the Empath is why some people act in an animostic way towards them, when they know they are a likeable and trustworthy person.

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An interview with one of my favourite authors

Whenever I read a book that speaks to me on a deeper level, I’d like to pick up the phone and invite the author for a cup of tea or hot chocolate. That way we could chat for hours on subjects you rarely talk with other people.

That happens to me every time I read a book by Peg Tittle. And because I was born under a lucky star, I even got the chance to ask Peg some questions. However, the best part is she agreed to answer them. I will share with you the whole interview:

Mesca: First of all, let’s get to know you. Who is Peg Tittle and what defines you? 

Peg Tittle: I’m anti-sexism (I consider that to be more accurate than calling myself a feminist, especially since the meaning of ‘feminist’ seems to have changed significantly, and for the worse, since the 1970s), I’m an atheist, I’m anti-capitalism, and I’m an environmentalist.  I’m probably a bunch of other things, but since those four come to mind, I suspect they’re most important to me.

A novel worth reading (will get back with a review)

(By the way, I grinned at the ‘What defines you?’ question because I’ve been busy promoting Gender Fraud: a fiction, a novel about gender identity, and I can certainly say that sex and gender do not define me—as least as far as I’m concerned; unfortunately, in our sexist society, that’s exactly what defines me.)

I might also add here that I’m also Jass Richards (my pseudonym for my funny-with-an-attitude writing; see jassrichards.com) and I’m Chris Wind (my pseudonym for my more-on-the-literary-side writing; see chriswind.net).

Mesca: Was there a special event in your life that made you start writing about women’s issues? Or was it the voice inside you that needed to speak out? 

Peg Tittle: I think it was an accumulation of little things …  I think I am Eve (chris wind) was my first feminist piece, and it was actually an essay I wrote for my Milton course in university.  That gave me the idea of investigating the rest of the Bible for misogyny (I hadn’t yet discovered Elizabeth Cady Stanton’s The Woman’s Bible).  I wrote Ophelia (chris wind) as a result of my Shakespeare course, and that led to several other soliloquies written from the point of view of Shakespeare’s women.  Revisioning fairy tales was very much ‘in the air’ in the 70s, so I did that as well (Snow White Gets Her Say, also by chris wind). 

The Dinner Party by Judy Chicago

And Judy Chicago’s The Dinner Party had a great effect on me: I remember standing outside the gallery after I’d just walked through, reading the information at each plate setting, just stunned and tears started rolling down my cheeks as I became suddenly conscious of the full weight of centuries of misogyny, and my boyfriend, who had come with me to the gallery, said with great insensitivity “I don’t know what you’re crying about” (I should have left him right then and there, I know); Deare Sister (chris wind) was a result of that (those four, along with UnMythed, comprise Satellites Out of Orbit).

Then surely feminism informed my work as Jass Richards, but I wouldn’t call any of it “about women’s issues” except for A Philosopher, a Psychologist, and an Extra-terrestrial Walk into a Chocolate Bar.

I started writing fiction as Peg only recently (she was the academic of the three of us): What Happened to Tom was clearly inspired by Judith Jarvis Thomson’s famous philosophical thought experiment about abortion (“The Violinist”)—I thought ordinary people, not just philosophers, should know about it, and I thought it needed to be really ‘fleshed out’ for people, especially men, to get the point.  It Wasn’t Enough and Impact just followed as a result of a years and years of living in a male supremacy (same for This is what happens, by Chris—though I’d actually written an early version of that in my 20s, but couldn’t get an agent or publisher for it) …  And Gender Fraud: a fiction was specifically triggered by the relatively recent rise of gender identity, specifically the  ‘gender recognition’ legislation being passed in so many countries.

Mesca: Out of all the books you’ve written have you got a favourite? Which one? Or if you haven’t got one, why not?

Peg Tittle: Well, What Happened to Tom sort of started it all, in terms of writing conventional novels (I actually wrote it as a screenplay first, and it exists as a stageplay), so that’s important, but I think I like Impact most because of its hard intensity (that feels more like me).

That said, I’m quite fond of some of the pieces in Satellites.  And This is what happens, because it covers my life, feels like my magnus opus.

That said, I think I actually enjoy writing as Jass Richards most—I have fun with Rev and Dylan.

Mesca: What was the worst thing you’ve been told and how did you react to it?

Peg Tittle: No one thing stands out.  I think my life—and probably many women feel this way, if they’re at all aware of their lives (I’m appalled at how many women just sort of stare at me, with  either incomprehension or pity for my presumed delusion, when I say ‘misogyny’ or ‘male supremacy’…)—has been full of such things, an accumulation of insults (from simple discouragements to seemingly harmless dismissals to outright intimidations and injuries) that eventually either outrage or numb you.  (Or both.)


Mesca: Do you think the world is changing for the better or worse when it comes to women’s rights?

Peg Tittle: One, it depends on where you look, in terms of both place and time.   There are huge differences between what happens to women in one country and what happens to women in another country.  Also, I don’t think there has been a steady course one way or another: even in my lifetime, things got better, then they got worse (for e.g., reproductive rights—when I was a child, no access to contraception and abortion; by the time I was in my late teens, access to contraception and abortion; now, so far so good, but there are forces trying to restrict access again…)

Perhaps that’s how it’ll always go: women will achieve one step forward, then men will be so outraged, they’ll force them one or two steps backward …  I often find myself saying to young women “But we figured this out in the 70s, have you forgotten?  Why do we have to keep re-proclaiming our personhood, why do we have to go through the same fights over and over …?”  Maybe that’s why: they’re responding to the backlash of their present …

Mesca: What is the advice you’d give to any woman out there who has experienced discrimination just for being a woman? 

Peg Tittle: Well, surely that includes all women out there (they may not be aware that their experience is discrimination just for being a woman).  I guess first and foremost that would be my advice: realize that it’s not personal, it’s not you—it’s because you’re female.  (That’s in large part why I wrote This is what happens.)

I’d like to say something about how to change it, what to do in order to eliminate such discrimination, but I just don’t know.  It’s been going on for centuries, literally (I’ve just finished reading Jack Holland’s The History of Misogyny), and surely we’ve tried almost everything, without success, apparently … 

Thank Peg for accepting to answer my questions as I know you are quite busy writing and promoting your new book. I am nearly half-way through Gender Fraud: a fiction and it is a book I can’t wait to write a review on. Maybe we can have a conversation on the subject of gender fraud, who knows?

All of the books can be purchased directly from Peg Tittle (epub, mobi, pdf) through her websites; they will be available in print, probably from September, due to the pandemic.

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