Does fear create monsters?

I don’t like to write about negative things as there are so many and it doesn’t improve the society by pointing out only the negatives. However, I just came across this video and these issues need to be addressed.

What do you think? The guard attacked those ladies for not wearing their masks in the right way and if that was the only issue, it has obviously gone too far.

Why are we becoming monsters when we are scared? Was the violence necessary in that situation? What happenes to human rights and why did the guard became aggressive, when she could have only addressed wearing the mask accordingly? Is this the beginning of strange control?

I don’t have the answers for these questions and it saddens me to see violent reactions like this. We are all in this, some people have chronic rhinitis and can’t wear a mask, others suffer from anxiety and panic attacks and some can’t breath through it at 40+ degrees. We need to be more understanding. At least that is how I see it.

What do you think? Did the guard act in the right way? I’d like to see your answers

Have you heard of imposter syndrome?

Have you ever felt like the tasks at your job are way above your knowledge or abilities? Have you ever felt like a fraud and atribute all your accomplishments to luck? You don’t like compliments as sometimes you feel you don’t deserve re them? You as many others like you, have possibly experienced the impostor syndrome.

Waking up this Saturday morning I decided to share with you my experience and what I have learned so far about the Imposter Syndrome. Apparently it was first studied on women and it was believed only women suffer from it. But it’s not the case. Here are the successful entrepreneur Mike Cannon Brookes and actor David Tennant talking about their experiences with impostor syndrome.

I first heard about it reading an article in EuroWeeklyNews last week’s issue at page 49, where Dione Lockery talks about. It sounded so familiar. So I decided to learn more about it. On Future Learn I found a course offered by University of Southern Queensland Australia about Overcoming Imposter Syndrome:Identify the patterns undermining your confidence so I dived in.

It was such an informative short course. I had made some tests to determine the degree of impostor syndrome in my brain and wasn’t surprised to find it way over 50 per cent. I have learned there are 5 types of imposter syndrome and learned how to overcome them. Also, I have read that many successful people as we saw already, suffer from it. Here’s a more detailed article.

We all have our doubts and sometimes we feel like frauds. The key to everything is to keep growing your mind and learn more things, expand your consciousness. Change our mindsets from fixed to growth and soon we’ll feel better. And if that doesn’t work, when the imposter syndrome tries to get ownership over your brain, remember this quote from Michel de Montaigne, that will at least cheer you up:

Kings and philosophers shit- and so do ladies.

Michel de Montaigne

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Restoring Faith in Humanity

This virus has brought fear and in some cases the worst in most people. But, despite all the the struggle, despite arguments like masks/no masks, which country has the most cases, economy vs health, etc there are still good people in the world, ready to help others in need.

I live somewhere by the sea side and this place relies on tourists especially at this time of the year. However, the virus made it difficult for the tourism sector which is barely surviving. Many businesses have gone bankrupt and with new cases emerging each day, the tourists are less and less.

Yesterday, I went on a bus ride, first in about five months and even now, in what should be the busiest time of the year, there were only 15 people in the bus, far less than in January, when buses were packed.

You’d think with this crisis services would improve, but I am afraid it isn’t the case with bus companies. In the tourist area, two tourists got in the bus and had ten euros to pay for the ticket. They couldn’t speak the national language and of course the driver could not speak English. He was refusing to let them in, telling them they need change. The guys explained they waited for the bus for more than 20 minutes, but the driver was not having it. He didn’t care they were tourists and had no clue about the rules here. He was refusing to let them in.

Luckily, one of the guys who sells sunglasses and hats on the beach came to their rescue and went to change their money. His gesture was so genuine and impressed me to tears. Those guys, most of them have no legal papers to work here, are being given strange looks on the street and having a tough life in general with police and so. But he instantly jumped to help someone else. God bless him and people like him, who are ready to do good despite the adversities.

His gesture made me restore a bit of faith in humanity. We are not doomed as a species, not all of us. There are still good people out there, who deserve to live in a better world.

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What we need is kindness

Ah, kindness. What a simple way to tell another struggling soul that there is love to be found in this world.

A. A. MALEE

Well, I didn’t want to write this post, but seeing everything that has been happening in the world, I feel obliged to do it.

I feel the pain, the struggles people of colour have to go through everyday. And it is not only them, it’s every immigrant who decided to live in a different country from their own. They will never belong. There will always be a reluctance of acceptance, discrimination, violence.

And now all the attention is towards a single group of ethnicity, like we forgot all the atrocities committed against women, against children and different ethnic groups. When are we going to realize we are in all together and responding violence with violence makes the matters worse.

We seem to forget about kindness and it’s odd how some people seem obliviant to the inequalities around them and support a cause that doesn’t relate to them directly. A wise man once said, if you want to change the world, start with yourself. Be kinder, help people around you, be the change you want to see in the world. And that kindness might influence someone to do the same and soon you can make your community better and kinder.

We don’t need more protests, we need kinder people. We need people to not cross the street if you speak a different language from their own, we need people who embrace the difference in others and try to learn from them.

What this world really needs is more love, understanding and acknowledging.

Taste buds pleasure

Because who doesn’t like a good pizza? I surely do, so today is about it.

All of these flavours

Make one’s mind surrender

To taste buds’ pleasure.

Thoughts on lockdown

How is lockdown going on in your part of the world? Are the things starting to move or you are still on hold? What are your opinions about the whole situation? I want to know if they go along the guidelines of the mass-media or against it?

In my part of the world the opinions are divided and people seem to be really adamant about their views, which I see it pretty close minded. I believed that in 2020 we would be better in thinking outside the box and accepting other views even if they go against ours. I guess, I was wrong once again…

So, what are your thoughts about the current world-wide situation?

Early morning thoughts

Are we better off not knowing things? Can the truth hurt us more than the lies? Is it better to stay in the darkness, than turning your face to the light? Because if the light is too bright, it can be blinding to the naked eye?

These are the question I contemplated on today, whilst listening to the sea. Us, as people, are programmed to have certain expectations, to accept what it is, and forget about what it isn’t. We are programmed to get a job, go to work, come back home, complain about the work we do, always dreaming for better days, get married, complain about own husband/wife, produce offsprings, stress about their wellbeing, complain about their inquisitiveness, get a promotion, buy a house, pay bills and mortgage, retire and die. We spend most of our lives complaining about stuff and another part do our programming. And, in all this hustle, we forget about ourselves. We forget about our dreams, we don’t even discover our hidden talents and most of all we forget to search, to learn. Because learning is unconfortable, learning takes time and in the process, you might discover things that aren’t as you thought they are. You might discover a painful truth, hidden between the beautiful lies. You might get hurt and suffer, because learning and discovery is not easy and it takes a lot of patience…

And then again? Are we ready for that? Or is is better to live your program and die whilst living.

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Random existential questions

Do we deserve to know the truth? Could we handle it? And if so, would we know what to do with it?

These are the questions I’ve been asking myself for the past few days. I am always for research, reading and analyzing because that’s my nature. But is this in the benefits of the masses ileven when they have no clue what to do with k owlwdge?

They say knowledge is power, but this power can be both good and bad. Knowledge in a madman’s hand could destroy a world, same results will happen if it falls in the hands of fools, as they could not process it.

As a journalist I was taught to always tell people the truth as it is, no biases. To be objective and present the facts. But what if those facts are my own perception and that truth is only what I capable to perceive?

Two people told me in the last couple of weeks that they prefer to be ignorant and don’t want to learn more. I accept their decision, but wonder if this is a general fact. If people prefer to be ignorant as that is what gives them peace and confort.

And if so, is the truth and knowledge worth keeping to yourself? Or share with the world and let the people do their own research.

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Feeling trapped is better than accepting the truth?

Blurred lines

Those blurred lines in life

Can bring great chaos but also peace

Depending on views.